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How to Get Where You Want to Be in Life

Getting where you want to be in life seems hard and confusing sometimes, doesn’t it? It doesn’t have to. It’s quite similar to using your computer or GPS system to guide you from one location to the next.

There are a couple of basic requirements for GPS to work. You need to know where you’re starting from, and where you plan to go. The more specific, the better. You can say you want to travel from Chicago to San Francisco and get most of the necessary directions. If you add specific addresses to both locations, you have a plan that takes you from door to door. How simple is that?

You have your own ability to go from one place in your life to another. It’s called your Inner Global Positioning System (GPS). It has the same basic requirements as the auto GPS; you still need to know where you are and where you want to go.

This question, however is a bit more involved. Not all of us know where we are, or where we want to go. Your Inner GPS can’t give you any help without this information. You are at a standstill, or you are lost.

What does it mean to know where you are now? This involves asking some tough questions and giving honest answers. Start by taking stock of your life in these areas:

  • Career/work
  • Family life
  • Education
  • Finances
  • Health
  • Relationships
  • Spirituality

 

Think back 3, 5 or 10 years and ask yourself, “Where did I hope to be right now in these areas?”. If you regularly set goals for yourself, this should be fairly easy to determine. If you don’t set goals, or write New Year’s Resolutions, you may not have a yardstick to use as a measure.

This is a critical first step to calibrating your Inner GPS. Even if you have goals or life plans, updating them every 6 months or so is an excellent habit to keep you on track, as you never know when construction detours by way of unforeseen circumstances (lost work, sickness, divorce, etc.) can impact what you want for your life.

Take some time and write down where you are in your life right now. If you don’t know where you are, you won’t know how to get to your desired goals! Make this a priority so you don’t wander aimlessly through life.

The next step is to know where you want to be with your life. Do you want to start a new career? Are you itching to live someplace warmer? Have you thought about your family size? What about feeling healthier and happier? What specifically do you want to accomplish in these areas?

These are the next questions you need to clarify. Using goals and visualizations in all areas can help you stay focused on getting you going in the right direction. The clearer you are about your plan, the easier for your Inner GPS to lead the way, and show you the steps to take to get there.

It’s time now for you to turn on the GPS and start taking steps to your ideal life. Start today, don’t look back 3 years from now and say, “I wish I had started sooner”. For more help, see some of my other articles on Goal Setting on my website.

Enjoy, and may all your traffic lights be green!


What is Your True Purpose in Life?

Don’t know? No problem. We have ways of helping you figure that out…

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THE Big Question…

One great way is to do some brainstorming. Pull out some paper and a pen, find a comfortable place to sit, preferably a quiet spot where you won’t be interrupted, and set a timer for at least 20 minutes.

At the top of the paper write this question: What is my true purpose in life? And then, just start writing down whatever comes to mind, no censoring or judging, just let it spill out.

You will most likely have some lulls, and during that time look around you and consider your surroundings and what they may mean to you, or what you find interesting about them.

Are you outside and can look at the beauty all around that you may take for granted? What does it inspire in you?Are you inside, looking around at a room you have decorated lovingly with items that have meaning to you? What does that tell you?

Are you surrounded by reminders of things you have started but given up on? Projects, classes, unpacked boxes? What can you glean from the way these things make you feel?

This should help you get the juices flowing again. If the timer rings, keep going if you still have more to write. You can certainly add to your list over time when something pops into your head. Here are some examples from my brainstorming session.

  • Helping others
  • Traveling
  • Writing
  • Writing to help others
  • To dream of new things
  • To give life to other people’s life stories
  • To find the joy in every day
  • In every thing
  • To explore new places
  • To fit in anywhere
  • To spread joy in little ways
  • To observe people to learn
  • Writing creative interesting stories that have a deeper meaning
  • To try new things, make things better
  • Do little things every day that make a difference to others
  • Invent something that changes the world

There are quite a few, as you can see. But that doesn’t end the search. In some ways it started it. But then as I studied the list, some similarities stood out, some categories started to form. One of them is writing. Of course that seems to be one I am pursuing. Another was helping people – perhaps by spreading joy in some way.

Look at your list. Is there any item that stands out more for you, that draws you in? Or is there some way that you can combine some topics as your purpose?

I think that is the beginning of finding your purpose- writing down what you are passionate about. Ask yourself, ‘what would you do if money weren’t an issue?’ Ah, that may put a different light on the idea. Those are the things your heart longs to do. Pay attention to them, for they will reward you with joy and fulfillment beyond imagination.

Take your time, but come back to your list often, add, subtract and contemplate on ways you could be acting on the items that mean the most to you. Take a step forward to live your passion as soon as you can. And every day you can. It can change your life.

Until next time, Be AMAZING (just be yourself)!


Now Is the Time For NOW!

quotetwainYou’ve probably heard that you can’t live in the past, or the future. You can only live in the present, NOW. How often do you find yourself thinking about what you did last week, and how you would do it differently if you could? Or how much you are looking forward to finally going off on the vacation you’ve been planning for the last six months?

Are you able to change what happened last week? No, of course not. Do you know what will happen on your well-earned vacation? Anything could happen between now and then.

Which leaves you only able to deal with what’s happening right now. Look around you. Are you doing something which you enjoy (of course! reading this…)? Is there something you wish you were doing today? Then why are you not doing that? What are you waiting for? The future is not guaranteed.

Seriously, though, how often have you sat down at the end of a long day or week and wondered where the time went, and why you feel like you really didn’t accomplish much of importance. I know I do more often than I care to admit. One thing that helps me to do more of the meaningful things is to make them the top priorities. If the plan is to do those things first, chances are so much greater that they will meet a successful completion.

The other thing that helps me immeasurably is to turn off the TV, or any other distraction that may beckon for my attention. If I follow up with turning on some motivational music, it’s almost impossible to stop me.

What small change could you make to be doing what you need to right now? And, what would be the best thing for you to do right now to get you one step closer to your dreams fulfilled? Take a moment, really think about those two questions. Write them down.

Then, dial down your distractions, and turn up your motivation for success.
One day, one NOW at a time.


It’s Impossible to Fail

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What would you do if it were impossible to fail?

It’s an intriguing, and exciting question if you really let yourself  think about it. Let the question invite your mind to dream. Just let it go. In fact, why not take some time right now to quickly write down what comes to mind- without judging your responses.

I’ll wait. 🙂

Ok, was that an eye-rolling exercise, or perhaps so exciting that you can’t wait to get started? Did you even write anything down? If not, go back and do it. And feel free to add to it at any time.

Now take a look at your list.  How many of these things are you doing right now in your life? Even if only as a hobby, or reading, learning, talking about it, how many do you give any of your time to?

Chances are that you probably don’t spend much-or maybe any- time on them. Why is this, do you think? Do these activities seem so out of reach to you, or are there obstacles in your way to enjoying your ultimate life dreams?

Now, could those obstacles actually be…you? Many times we are the only thing keeping us from success. It could look like a lack of money or other resources, or unsupportive family and friends, or lack of confidence, or any number of things that can really all be traced back…to you. Because it would be crushing to want something so much and then fail at achieving it, right?

But, what if it were impossible to fail? Could you do it? Could anything STOP you from doing it?

Let’s find out. For you, it is possible.


Do You Have a Bucket List?

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Visiting the Great Wall in China is on my bucket list!

 

Everyone daydreams about the things they long to experience in life. Some people make plans for a handful of them. A rare few even accomplish most or all of what they set out to do.

What sets these accomplished dreamers apart?  Well, for one, they took the time to put it down in writing, all their hopes and dreams, wishes and life goals. It sounds too easy, but in fact the simple act of writing something down makes it more real. The continued process of looking at and thinking about these wanted experiences pushes us each to take small steps to making them so.

There is power in the pen. It is, after all, mightier than the sword.  If you would like to wring the greatest amount of memorable events from your life, as I do, start with some urgent daydreaming. What would you do if money or time were not an issue? Let go, and just write down all the wild and spectacular yearnings that spring to mind.

Would you win a Nobel Prize? Find a cure for AIDS or Cancer? Become President of your country? Write a blockbuster novel? Sail around the world? Nothing is too big, or too ‘out there’. I’ve been making such lists for upwards of twenty years, and from time to time my list changes; some I have completed (Yea!), others I decide to take off the list, still more I add or tweak.

Here are some items high on my list right now:

1.      Speak five (or more) languages fluently. (I’m currently at 1 + .5 + .5)

2.      Travel to each of the continents. (4 and counting)

3.      Write an inspiring play (or screenplay) which is produced and receives abundant accolades. (ideas are percolating)

4.      Donate at least one million dollars to causes close to my heart. (5% in so far)

5.      Go skydiving with my daughter or a friend. (in the talking stage)

6.      Take my entire family on a cruise to Hawaii. (35 people or so presently- must happen without someone wanting to kill another family member)

7.      Live in NYC for a year. (near Central Park, of course)

8.      Invent something that makes life easier for millions. (I’m an idea person)

9.      Learn to play the piano. (it’s been on my list since I was 7, but I don’t have a piano- yet)

10.  Spend a week (or a month) studying with the Dalai Lama. (that would be so cool, and enlightening)

11.  Walk on the Great Wall of China. (I have pictures- so awesome)

12.  Have pen pals in 10 or more countries (3 sponsored kids in 3 countries currently)

These are some of my most wanted right now. But without the list, I feel sure that I would not be as far along as I am. And this doesn’t even take into account the things I have already completed!

Lists are great tools, sometimes tedious, but always helpful in leading us on the path to completion of the items listed. Why wait? Isn’t today the perfect day to make that list of life experiences you’d like to accomplish? If not now, when?

I’m reminded daily of the great adventures I plan to take. Whenever possible, I take another step in direction of one of them. Before I know it- I can cross it off the list. I feel a great sense of accomplishment, and have a host of memories to ponder or share with others.

It’s another great day in the life of me, a world-renowned dreamer. Better get to it then. See you on the road.


How Do You Present Yourself to the World? Part 2

 

“Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’

‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.

‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’

‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’

‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

~ Margery Williams Bianco, The Velveteen Rabbit

This classic children’s book shows us what it’s like to be real. Like the Velveteen Rabbit and Pinnochio,  this real self is something we strive to attain. We make mistakes along the way, but when we learn from them and improve, we inch closer to our authentic selves.

With age comes wisdom, they say. There is a lot of truth in that; but there is as much truth in this: with experience comes wisdom.

Have you met a young person who seemed wise for their years? Sure, some call these special people ‘old souls’ as they seem to have accumulated wisdom generally found in someone much older.

It is not a requirement to be older to live authentically; most of us just don’t use our life experiences to move forward like we could. Often we are more concerned with how others perceive us than how we really feel. Sound familiar?

The beauty of life and how we live it is that when we become aware of a situation that is not working for our benefit, we can change it. Maybe it is a job that we feel stifled doing, or a person who makes us feel inadequate or brings us down, or an idea we hold that prevents us from doing something we really want to do.

Once you know what is holding you back, you are obligated to do something to change it in order to move forward and live your real life. It may be hard at first, but every time you honor that part of you which holds your purpose, you are rewarded more than you could imagine.

What would it be like to look forward to going to work every day, for YOU?

What would if feel like to be surrounded by people who inspire the best in YOU?

What could YOU do if you weren’t holding YOURSELF back?

Spend some time on these questions. You may be surprised by how different some areas of your life would be if you were to live them authentically.

You might even be inspired. If you are, share your inspiration with someone, because it isn’t real until you put it out in the world. Share your dream with us by leaving a comment, or by supporting another in their quest.

Whatever you do, if it comes from the authentic part of you, it will feel right.

“This above all; to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.”
~William Shakespeare