Ever have those days when it seems like everything you did, and everyone you had contact with, and all you felt was Serious? Complete lack of joy, humor…FUN? Hopefully you don’t have too many of those days each week. But some days are like that.
Consider this scenario:
You awaken to a blaring alarm, not quite feeling rested. No chance to finish that sweet dream, too much to do today. You quickly corral the troops and send them off to their respective destination, and then it’s off to conquer your day. You encounter questions, problems, needy customers or colleagues, and piles of work that won’t be finished today. There’s no time to think, let alone have any fun, right?
Before you know it, it’s time to move on to the next obstacle- traffic on your way home, or to the grocery store, or favorite take-out place. Next there may be homework, or work brought home and the usual round of house chores. Still no fun? If you’re lucky, maybe you have time to watch your favorite sitcom, or funny movie. How many days do you experience like this? If you answered “too many” then this wakeup call is just in time.
We all seem to live for the weekends when we get to relax and enjoy the fruits of our week’s labors. But how often do we find the weekend to be spent in catching up on errands and chores and family engagements? And like a blink of an eye, the alarm is blaring once again…
Sound familiar? We humans are creatures of habit, and as anyone will tell you, all habits are not created equal. What we have here is a habit of moving through the days and weeks with the hope that one day we will get to have fun. Those fun days are probably few and far between.
But luckily habits can be changed. It’s actually easier than you might think. But there are different ways of going about it. The hardest approach is the cold turkey-just not gonna do it anymore -plan. As anyone who has tried to give up smoking or eating red meat, or biting their nails, to be successful you have to replace the bad habit with a new, better one.
Like chewing gum for the smoker. Or eating more fish and chicken, or having a lollipop when you want to bite your nails. You need to find something you enjoy and that is better for you as a replacement. And changing a habit means you need to form a new one. Forming new habits requires that you do something repeatedly over a period of time until it becomes second nature. Learning to ride a bike, or play an instrument, for instance. Practice it until it feels natural.
Can we do that with our daily routine to add more fun to it? You probably at times in your life had some built in fun in your day- singing or dancing while you get ready in the morning, or while cleaning up. Playing games as a family while driving or eating. You know, stuff that makes you smile, or dare I say, laugh?
Start first with a little bit of searching your archives for things you have done in the past- they are easy to put back into play. Then add some easy things you don’t have to think very hard about:
- Sign up for a funny quote or comic strip to be delivered to your inbox every day.
- Carry a couple snapshots in your wallet or on your phone of fun times you’ve had.
- During your break or lunch, watch a silly pet video on YouTube.
- Play practical jokes on family or co-workers (harmless ones…).
- Belt out your favorite song in the shower- everyone sounds awesome there.
- Write silly notes to your kids or spouse…see what happens.
- Record some of your favorite funny shows and movies, and watch regularly.
- Laugh for no reason, even if it’s in the car alone.
- You add some ideas to the list.
Pick one or more things from your list and add to each day. Repeat daily. Be creative, and you’ll be adding fun into the everyday stuff before you know it. Laughter is good for your health, both mental and physical.
And so much easier than crunches, don’t you think?